Not everyone gets along well. What is the best way to work with someone you may not care for much? Why does this approach help?
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1. Try to Find Common Ground
You can’t change the other person, but you can change your mindset on how you view that person. Instead of focusing on the negatives or the reasons you don’t like them, try to find some common ground. You may find that maybe you’re both parents or that you’re following the same diet plan. Finding common ground will help you see them in a different light. And who knows, they may become your friend.
2. Be Polite and Minimize Personal Interactions
First, understand that you don’t have to like everyone you work with. If there’s an individual or two with whom you just can’t seem to get along with, be polite and respectful, and then focus on the work at hand. Keep personal interactions to a minimum.
3. Stay Focused on Your End Goals
When working in an environment where there are many personalities, or if you have to deal with others outside of your organization to get things done, there are bound to be times when people don’t get along. I always focus on the task at hand rather than the people involved. I know if I focus on the end goal, the results will speak for themselves, regardless of the obstacles that may occur.
4. Ask Them to Do You a Favor
Known as the Ben Franklin approach, asking an “enemy” for a favor can help smooth rough feelings. Specifically, asking a colleague to do us a favor signals that we think they have something that we don’t, such as more resources, skills or insight. Asking them for a favor is a way to show admiration and respect, which in turn raises their opinion of us because they appreciate our admiration.
5. Communicate via Digital Channels
We’re living in a time when we have so many options for communication. If you’re dealing with someone whom you don’t think has good intentions, it’s important to communicate via a trackable method. The last thing you want is for them to blame you for something. If you use a trackable method of communication, you’ll be able to have proof that you are doing your job.
6. Check Your Assumptions
Never make an assumption about someone. You may not like one of your co-workers because they seem to always be in a foul mood, but the truth is you don’t know why. They may have something going on in their life that is making them behave this way. Try to learn about them to see where they are coming from. You may not like them more, but at least you will understand why they are the way they are.
7. Talk Openly About Your Professional Relationship
We’ve found that dislike can come from miscommunication or unstated assumptions. By working on the relationship and talking openly about challenges and frustrations, you’re more likely to build trust. As a company, we’ve created a system for new employees to meet everyone in the company over time. This helps employees feel more comfortable having open conversations if there is a problem later on.
8. Ask for Advice on Managing the Relationship
If they’re causing problems, seek out advice from others at your job to find out if there’s a way you can get along with that co-worker. Maybe that co-worker is really good friends with someone else in the office, you could ask them for advice on how to work together better, without gossiping. You could also someone in HR for some resources to help you manage this working relationship better.
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9. Get a Mediator
Being extremely professional can help when working with a person you find unpleasant, but this can only take you so far. A far more effective strategy is to have a third party work with you — someone who is on good terms with both of you and is generally nice to have around. This third person serves as a mediator that can prevent arguments or passive-aggressive behavior from either of you.
10. Be Transparent
Our company prides itself on everyone getting along great. It makes for a happier, more productive workplace. If we discover people are not getting along, we call it out. It may be a bit different than how other places handle the issue, but the transparency allows us to all talk out the problem and find the best way to resolve it.
11. Be Professional Above All Else
It is great if you get along with everyone you work with, but sometimes you will find yourself working side by side with someone you may not enjoy. The key to getting through this is to keep your eye on the prize. If you are both working toward the same goal, be professional, respectful and get your work done. At the end of the day, you can go your separate directions.